Tag: asking questions

08 Mar

The Monsters in Our Maps

It’s what’s not on our mental maps — the realities we haven’t planned for, or refuse to see — that get in the way of our goals.
30 Aug

3-Stage Goals

How many times have you set a goal…and just missed it? For a lot of us, “just missing it” is tantamount to failure. For recovering perfectionists like myself, it’s all too easy to see success in terms of black and white, and the goals that get us there as pass/fail tests. How do we change that? Expand [...]
04 Jan

Contribute or Complicate?

Chris Brogan wrote a great post on using questions to stay on target. Here’s one I use all the time: Will this (whatever it is) contribute to, or complicate, my goals? Yes, that’s very close to Dr. Phil’s “contribute or contaminate” dichotomy, but I don’t like the implied judgment of that. It’s already too easy for [...]
02 Dec

Defining A Question, Not THE Question

This is easier than you think. Last week I wrote that the first step in figuring out how to get started in social media was to “Define the Question.” It’s a big thing for me—I’ve written here before on the importance of understanding why you’re doing what you’re doing. But it’s apparently a big thing for you, [...]