There’s an intimate connection between our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Changes in one lead to changes in another: thoughts create feelings, actions affect thought, feelings inspire action, and so on.
You can use that connection to your advantage, of course. But it can also lead you astray.
Our hearts do it, too, with feelings. Some that last a moment. Some that last a lifetime.
It’s almost like the head and the heart play a game. They taunt us with an idea, a sensation, just to see if we’ll act… and how readily. Just to see if we’ll stop – look — before we take a leap.
And it’s so easy not to. So tempting to play their game.
But there are certain thoughts, certain feelings, that need to sit there for a while – without action. There are times when action isn’t the solution (at least, not right away). Where thinking doesn’t solve it (…at least, not right away).
Sometimes it’s the absence of thought, the absence of feeling, the absence of action that leads to the clarity we need. Sometimes we need to just be, to bear witness as thoughts slip in and out of our heads.
Sometimes we need to just feel, and be still.
Sometimes its the absence of perspective that finally creates it, that makes our perspective on all of it — our thoughts and feelings and the actions we want or need to take — much more clear.
Entering that kind of witness state is a powerful choice, and a difficult one. It’s there you watch… and wait. It’s there you see just how long an idea, a sensation, sticks around. It’s there you can test it. Disconfirm it. Play out all the possible scenarios – both logical and not. It’s there you suspend judgment. You weigh options. You find your truth.
It’s there you can watch other thoughts come in and out. Other feelings come in and out.
It’s there you can watch as, sometimes, a thought or a feeling, even after all of that, just doesn’t go away.
And then you act.