Monthly Archives: August 2010

30 Aug

3-Stage Goals

How many times have you set a goal…and just missed it? For a lot of us, “just missing it” is tantamount to failure. For recovering perfectionists like myself, it’s all too easy to see success in terms of black and white, and the goals that get us there as pass/fail tests. How do we change that? Expand [...]
23 Aug

Finding What Fits

Looking for a job? Hiring someone? Look for the suit. No, no, not that kind of suit (though that might be helpful with some kinds of jobs). I mean look for what suits. When we craft our resumés, we focus on cataloging all the things we’ve done. We outline (via vague objectives rewritten for every new opportunity) what we [...]
11 Aug

Changing Your Habits in 3 Steps

Our habits shape us. They’re the actions we repeat, over and over again, that make us who we are. They come in many forms. Our routes to work. Our patterns of speech. What we eat. Or drink. How we approach a challenge. How we spend our days. There are times, of course, when we want [...]
10 Aug

It Ain’t About Authenticity, People.

Authenticity. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. In fact, I’m pretty sure a lot of us are confusing authenticity with integrity. Or even if we’re not, we’re putting the emphasis on the wrong quality. Authenticity is about being real. But real-ness isn’t the issue. When we’re [...]